The unimaginable is a life without her smile in it. The heartbreaking is a life without her lips on mine. Life is unworthy without her in my arms. — (May 17, 2013)
Its not distance, money, the place when or where you met them or life that stops a relationship from happening. It’s the physical, the hoplessness, the worry about peoples perceptions and the need for the momentary that hinders it. Have hope, and never stop loving the one that matters to you and never give up no matter what. The suffering for a few moments will only reward you with a lifetime of happiness and love. — (May 10, 2013)
Anonymous asked: I like intimate to the person I love like kissing or make out. But my bf seems to not be that person, he likes to to cuddle and that's it. When I start to kiss him, he sometimes turns away or give me this and that reason why he doesn't want to. Make love really means nothing to me without that intimacy. Therefore, I never once feel what I should feel when we do "it" because my interest always stops at one point. I don't know if this is my problem or his?
I can’t say entirely what might be wrong without knowing about him or for that matter what else he says as reasons to why he doesn’t want to. I kinda haven’t seen any guy who doesn’t want to kiss the girl he loves. And yes, if I am to take your words as they are. Whats happening is a problem. The only way to get through this is to make him sit down and tell you honestly what thats wrong with him not wanting to kiss you or make out. This isn’t your problem. It’s entirely from his side if he constantly refuses to kiss you. Talk to him and find out whats wrong. If his answer still confuses you. Let me know what his answer was and I will try my best to deconstruct his mind in my terms to you. As for you both making love. Let me just be honest and suggest to let it not happen for the time being till he gives you a valid reason as well as starts kissing and making out first. And when you have a valid reason in your heart (and not in your mind) to make love to him. Then you can. As for now. Sit down. Talk. Get answers. Pronto!
Anonymous asked: Is it consider 'selfish', or most guys tend to care for his gf physically rather than emotionally? Im a strong character and caring, I'm always there to listen when he needs me, but I never felt the same from him. Now I called it off for this relationship bc of our constant fight lately, and he told me that he will change and says he doesn't want to lose me.I don't pickup his call n miss him when we don't talk, but for sure I will lose my temper when we do. Did I really do the right thing here?
Not all men are only about the physical. But, it is indeed hard to find men who aren’t that way and are a balance of the physical and emotional and also listens to the woman they love. It might be something that is there at the start but with familiarity that trait goes away as well. But few men do always listen to their women. Be it anything from their problems to the things they go through in their day to day life. If I were to take the words of a few of my friends who mostly don’t entirely like men, they would say,”a man who truly are in tune with their emotional side as well as listens to a woman are extinct or close to it. And a woman who finds one is the luckiest of them all.” As for if you ask me if you did the right thing. Well, Yes and, hmmm No. The fact that your man was willing to change was something that showed that he would rather be with you than any other woman out there and that you mean more to him than anything. You could have just talked about it to him and told him about how you felt and then told him that this wasn’t gonna work. A man who desperately tries to save a relationship putting aside his pride as a man and telling you that he will change is something that should not be taken lightly. Only 1 out of 40 men out there do that. Which is rather rare if you ask me. What you should do is that you should just tell him about why you did what you did and everything that entailed. Just make sure that you both don’t lose the love over something like this. Cos things like this can be rectified whereas there are worse things that people do every day in relationships that can and never will be rectified. Sit down and talk about everything together.
And to everyone out there. Men are rare that love a woman with all their heart, so much that they will change who they are and everything around them just to see the love of their life smile. And women are rare that will understand her man and love him for who he is and makes him a better man every single day. Some men and some women in our life are worth everything and worth fighting for till the end. Giving up on them for something thats momentary and petty, even when they will do anything to keep it all together, is folly in its most ultimate. Don’t give up on the people that will give even their everything just to see you one more day in their life. And, to you, Don’t worry. It WILL be okay. Its sometimes things like this that beings people more closer.
Well, hmmm, this can be quite a long one. For me, there is nothing more satisfying than pleasing the woman I love. Its more arousing and mentally orgasmic to me to see her have an orgasm from what I do to her than the physical pleasure I get myself. And this is an account of how I would do it.
Foreplay is something that I think is way more important than the actual act of intercourse or genital stimulation itself. For me, exploring her body is something I love. Kissing every inch of her body. Loving every part of her just as much as the other. Running my hands over her beautiful skin. My fingers through every corner and fold of her body. For me, it all starts with her forehead. Kissing her forehead, her eyebrows, her eyes, looking into her eyes, then kissing her nose, her cheeks, her lips, her ears, chin, jawline. Then carrying onto her neck, throat and shoulders. Then kissing her collarbone, her chest, staying around her breasts, teasing her by kissing just around her nipples for a bit and kissing her right on it too. Tracing the tip of my tongue around her nipples and sucking on it for a bit as well. Then, going down the middle along the line between her tummy till I reach her bellybutton and kissing her there. A bit more than once. Kissing her hips. Taking her hands in mine and kissing every single finger of hers. Maybe sucking on a few as well. Then again, after that, going down still, kissing her pubic bone right above her clit but never even touching between her legs once. I love teasing a lot so, its something that will be done a lot. Then, I will proceed to kiss her thighs, running my hands up under her butt and up over to her hips. Kissing the inside of her thighs, then going down. Kissing her entire leg. Her feet and every single one of her toes. And massaging her feet for a bit. I love what all this will do to her. The yearning that builds up. The anticipation of whats to come. Making her vibrate with the knowledge of what will happen in the end. Making her melt.
After all that, I know that she will be begging for it. For what I am about to do to her. I will slowly part her legs. Pull her down to me and lay right between her legs so that her legs are over my shoulders and on my back. And my hands have complete control and reach. I will gently start with kissing the inside of her thighs, running my tongue up its sides till I reach her pussy. Start with gentle kisses on her right between her legs. Gently at first, but more pressure the more hungry I get for her. Then, I will start by licking her from the bottom end of her pussy up till the top where her clit is, with my tongue and applying little pressure to it. Controlling her with my hands over her thighs or under her butt. Adding to the control in pressure I want to have while I give it to her. My hands will be sliding over her thighs, hips, reaching and caressing her breasts while I am doing this. I know that her eyes will be watching me, just like I will be looking right into her eyes the whole time. Watching her reactions with everything I do to her. I will start with her clit. Teasing it with the tip of my tongue. Flicking it with the tip, Licking it from time to time, sucking on it a bit, stroking it more with my tongue and gently sucking the skin into my mouth with my lips. And constantly licking her pussy from time to time to lick all of her wetness off of her. I will then go on and take care of her dripping wet pussy, sucking the juices out of her, sliding my tongue in more and more, feeling the contractions, squeezing my tongue while its inside. Moving it in and out. I will be kissing her pussy like I would kiss her lips. Slowly picking up the pace of all that I am doing. When I feel her stiffen up a bit, I know what will be coming next. So, I will gently lick her pussy and make it wet and proceed to her clit and suck on it. While I place my middle finger at the opening of her wet pussy and gently slide it into her. I will have one leg over my shoulder so that I can reach her breasts while I do this. Then, just bending my finger a bit so that the lip of my finger slides against the top of the inside of her pussy as I move it in and out. Never stopping sucking and licking her clit while I do this. I know she will tell me when she is about to cum for me. Then, I will move faster, sucking, flicking her clit more faster and licking it harder. Moving my finger faster. Maybe sliding one more finger inside her if I know she is ready for it. When I know she is close. I will hold her hand. Giving her support. I know that she will cum hard, her beautiful legs shaking, her upper body bending, legs entwined over my body, her butt firmer, her hands gripping me tight and her other hand gripping the bedsheets and pulling it as wave after wave of orgasm hits her. I won’t stop with what I doing. Carrying on till I know she is pleased. Getting up from there. I will gently lay by her side and pull her close and kiss her forehead and her lips. And whisper to her how much I love her. I know she will be breathing hard and still shaking a bit. I will pull her onto me, hold her close with my arms around her and whisper in her ears, “I ain’t done yet.”
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Anonymous asked: Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 1 year and 4 months, he is 21 and im 19 and we both love each other so much, we fight alot, almost every single day, we have never cheated on each other, though my trust for him is low and his for mine as well. I tend to get scared that he will look at other girls or watch pornography, he is a very quite mature guy, he has become controlling in what i wear. How is shouldnt provoke other men. he says im only for him? What do you say about this?
Let me get through this in a fashion you will get to get your final answer to everything in the end and easy ways to understand why this is happening through the first part. The thing that should be said and kept throughout what I say here is that you both love each other. Arguments are common place in a relationship and I think, that its only between the most loving of people that a bit of disagreement happens once in a while. If taken in the sense of love, it always brings the couple together. The fact that you both have been fighting almost daily is something you both should be concerned and worried about. I am sure your love for each other is most certainly there but constant arguments will only lead to resentment in the future some years down the line when it somewhat gets a bit bland and kinda boring and needs rejuvenation in your life with each other. People who always loved each other get through this rough patch one way or another. But, constant fights can lead to a bad ending in a relationship. I am not talking about the occasional disagreements like once a month or once a few weeks. I am talking about the constant one which as you said is every day. I will come to the solution to this soon. Before that, I would like to get on with your questions and point out to you that every woman and man fears that their lover will look at other girls or guys. Its innate to what love is. Love is a base emotion. Everything comes from it. Be is jealousy, fear, anger, lust, and even stronger emotions like hate or fury. The word you are looking for her though is jealousy. The only way to battle this is to not give your lover a reason to be jealous. The rest I will tell you in a bit. Now, about pornography. Its common these days with men as well as women to watch porn. The fact that you should understand is that a man or woman who is in a relationship AND in love, who may or may not watch porn always fantasises about the one they love and not the woman in the video (no matter if she looks like a goddess or some other worldly siren. To him, you are everything, his goddess and all to him and no one can ever compare to you) or any other woman in their mind. Its nothing to be worried about. Unless it turns out that he enjoys watching it and being with himself more than being you with you. Now that though, is a problem. As for the man being controlling about your clothes. That is something entirely related to him being jealous of other men looking at you the way only he should be looking at you and you giving a reason for other men to look at you cos of something you are giving them a reason to. You have to be partly understanding about this. But that doesn’t mean you have to entirely change your wardrobe and dress like a nun just to make him happy. The thing you should understand is that he is just acting like every guy out there would with his woman. Only that your man is outspoken about it unlike the rest like him who tends to keep mum about it. So try to avoid wearing things that might possibly (even though you may not think so that it does. Try to get a second opinion from your friend maybe or some friend who doesn’t dress like you do). As for about him saying you’re only his? Well, aren’t you? Just as much as he is yours?
Now for my final answer to all your questions. As I always say, Communication is the only way to solve things. Be it of any matter or magnitude. Talking about what you both feel about everything and why can be a good start for avoid mostly all or all in its entirety. Just make him sit down with you seriously and tell him that we shouldn’t argue about anything and just talk about everything and try to listen to each other (although be serious but no like you are gonna bite his head off which might lead to the start becoming an argument). Start with your worries and tell him to let you complete what you have to say and that you wanna know what he is thinking cos you love him. Try to calm him down if he gets angry or anything. And try your best to avoid getting into an argument. Just talk about things. Make him listen and when he talks, listen to him as well. Trust me on this. It will work if it goes as I said. You both love each other. Why keep your worries from each other. Share them. Try to understand him and try to understand how he sees you in every way and try to make him understand you and how he sees you as well. This I am afraid is the only way to save your relationship before you both end up doing something stupid and ending it all on something you could have solved in under 30 minutes or even an hour of talking. Trust each other. Talk about everything. And just give him a kiss (personal touch that I added since I am a guy and I would’ve thought it would be a nice thing to have) every time he opens up to you about something you ask or is understanding to your worries. And finally, just a thought. Don’t say you don’t trust him if you don’t really have any solid reasons with proof that he himself has done something for you to not trust him. To a man who loves a woman with all his heart. Hearing his woman say she doesn’t trust him can be a bit, you know, hard and mostly painful. That’s all there is to it I think. Let me know how it went. Stay safe and be well.
Bear with me on this. I will answer your question in a way that will get you to understand what you (or I) think you are asking me here.
Men are commonly known to be more physical being rather than how women are who tend to be more about the emotional side of things. Men tend to mostly see everything as on a physical plane too. Rather than knowing about pleasing a woman starts with not when he gets in bed, but rather starts when his day started with her or even cos of one single sentence he said during the day. Men on the other hand tend to be aroused by anything from a simple gesture to vastly known form of arousing means such as nudity or even his fantasies. That’s not to say that women are always just emotional beings, they do have their physical side as well but not entirely. But, there are exceptions in some men where they tend to balance both the physical and mental or emotional along the same line. We can’t say for certain how it is with men unless and until a woman knows his man in every way so that she can say in the end what kind of a man he is sexually. If I am to say about myself. I tend to think more about her than about my own pleasure. To me pleasing her is more important than pleasing myself. That’s not the say that I do not get pleased. Cos seeing her pleased is pleasure more than what I get from anything I can do to myself. But as always, we both always think of each other pleasure and not just ours. Its mutual. Always.
What I am trying to tell you here is that its not always the same with all men. One thing that turns on one man won’t essentially turn on another. You can’t predict what he likes and pleases him unless you know the man for more than just a day or two or even weeks or months. Only way to know this is to know the mans heart and go on from there. Sex is as simple as it is complicated. And sometimes the more complicated parts are the simple things about it. Still, as for me, I don’t see it as sex. I see it as making love. So, that being said, get to know your mans fantasies. What turns him on and what doesn’t And if by not having sex, you mean intercourse or copulation (cruder terms have been said, so don’t laugh! lol), then the means for which you are looking for is physical stimulation by which I mean to say, oral sex or mutual masturbation or anything from teasing to making out. The means are various when it comes to that. The only hindrance here is how far your imagination can go.
I don’t really know what I did to deserve her. But, I do know, that I love her with all I have. And the only truth is that, I am the most luckiest man in the whole world to have a woman as beautiful as her in my life. A woman so beautiful that every other just pales in comparison to everything about her. She is my angel, my baby love, my everything, my all. And she is my forever.
Anonymous asked: So I'm a Virgin and I was just wondering on a scale from 1-10 how bad will it hurt my first time? And Is it awkward? Btw I luv your blog!!xoxo -Nebraska girl
I think it depends on the partner you are with and not about the scale of hurt you may or may not experience. From what I know, some feel it, some don’t. Some say it hurts a lot and some say it doesn’t at all. Its to do with mostly the man you are with. If you love him and he loves you, the one thing that can always be counted upon is that you won’t feel the hurt cos there will be stronger feelings as well as more intense emotions that you will be going through that will drown out the other feelings and thoughts. As for how much it will hurt, well, different for different women is the right answer for it. But its mostly momentary and if you and your partner are in for it for the long haul then it will be easier to go through just in case the soreness (in rare cases) lasts a day or two at the very most and then it won’t be that problematic at all after. As for your question if it will be awkward? Well, making love is not something like you see in porn or anything. Its involves body fluids, sounds, smells and moments that are kinda something you don’t expect to have. But that is what makes it perfect. Its imperfections makes it perfect. When you love a man or a woman with all you have. Everything that is your two bodies becomes one. You share everything that you are. Yes, it can get awkward at times and you both might laugh and it will get beautiful as well. But, that IS the beauty of it. Its mutual when you love each other and the mental thoughts will always be to please one another and not themselves. Talk about the things you love to do, the things you wanna try and all when you talk casually with each other. It will do you both a world of good. Its not just about what you do in bed. Its always about the entirety of it. Making love starts with your life and what you do outside your bed and ends with what you eventually share in bed. And simply put, to end what I wanna say. When you love someone, you make love together. When you don’t, you have sex with someone. Simple as that.
And thank you for your kind words :) Stay safe.
Anonymous asked: You seem to be the perfect person to help me out with this. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and now also anytime i see him or just observe him when he is doing something i get butterflies in my stomach and my heart beats faster. What am I feeling? I'm scared to love someone because I have observed people in relationships and many are unsuccessful. I would love to tell more but I'm limited on the word count. I'm scared, I don't know what I am feeling towards him or him towards me.
Nothing is certain in life. Be it success or failure. But it takes a lot of courage to plunge yourself into something you are sure of with your heart but not sure of with your mind. The success of your relationship or your future relationship should not be dictated by other relationships or your past. Make your own path, your own life and one that will show someone that there IS really such a thing as a successful relationship. Cos trust me on this, I’ve known many. They may not be perfect, but the imperfections of it is what does make it perfect as well. So go ahead. He loves you and you love him and if you both sat down and talked about it and is clear about it and your future. Then, by all means go have fun and love each other always. Do not compare your life with someone else’s. Not your parents, neighbors or even your friends relationships. Their life was theirs to live out the way they wanted. Your life is yours to live the way you want it to. The choices, the heart and all the things needed are in your hands.
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