The unimaginable is a life without her smile in it. The heartbreaking is a life without her lips on mine. Life is unworthy without her in my arms.
Its not distance, money, the place when or where you met them or life that stops a relationship from happening. It’s the physical, the hoplessness, the worry about peoples perceptions and the need for the momentary that hinders it. Have hope, and never stop loving the one that matters to you and never give up no matter what. The suffering for a few moments will only reward you with a lifetime of happiness and love.
Not all men are only about the physical. But, it is indeed hard to find men who aren’t that way and are a balance of the physical and emotional and also listens to the woman they love. It might be something that is there at the start but with familiarity that trait goes away as well. But few men do always listen to their women. Be it anything from their problems to the things they go through in their day to day life. If I were to take the words of a few of my friends who mostly don’t entirely like men, they would say,”a man who truly are in tune with their emotional side as well as listens to a woman are extinct or close to it. And a woman who finds one is the luckiest of them all.” As for if you ask me if you did the right thing. Well, Yes and, hmmm No. The fact that your man was willing to change was something that showed that he would rather be with you than any other woman out there and that you mean more to him than anything. You could have just talked about it to him and told him about how you felt and then told him that this wasn’t gonna work. A man who desperately tries to save a relationship putting aside his pride as a man and telling you that he will change is something that should not be taken lightly. Only 1 out of 40 men out there do that. Which is rather rare if you ask me. What you should do is that you should just tell him about why you did what you did and everything that entailed. Just make sure that you both don’t lose the love over something like this. Cos things like this can be rectified whereas there are worse things that people do every day in relationships that can and never will be rectified. Sit down and talk about everything together.
And to everyone out there. Men are rare that love a woman with all their heart, so much that they will change who they are and everything around them just to see the love of their life smile. And women are rare that will understand her man and love him for who he is and makes him a better man every single day. Some men and some women in our life are worth everything and worth fighting for till the end. Giving up on them for something thats momentary and petty, even when they will do anything to keep it all together, is folly in its most ultimate. Don’t give up on the people that will give even their everything just to see you one more day in their life. And, to you, Don’t worry. It WILL be okay. Its sometimes things like this that beings people more closer.
Bear with me on this. I will answer your question in a way that will get you to understand what you (or I) think you are asking me here.
Men are commonly known to be more physical being rather than how women are who tend to be more about the emotional side of things. Men tend to mostly see everything as on a physical plane too. Rather than knowing about pleasing a woman starts with not when he gets in bed, but rather starts when his day started with her or even cos of one single sentence he said during the day. Men on the other hand tend to be aroused by anything from a simple gesture to vastly known form of arousing means such as nudity or even his fantasies. That’s not to say that women are always just emotional beings, they do have their physical side as well but not entirely. But, there are exceptions in some men where they tend to balance both the physical and mental or emotional along the same line. We can’t say for certain how it is with men unless and until a woman knows his man in every way so that she can say in the end what kind of a man he is sexually. If I am to say about myself. I tend to think more about her than about my own pleasure. To me pleasing her is more important than pleasing myself. That’s not the say that I do not get pleased. Cos seeing her pleased is pleasure more than what I get from anything I can do to myself. But as always, we both always think of each other pleasure and not just ours. Its mutual. Always.
What I am trying to tell you here is that its not always the same with all men. One thing that turns on one man won’t essentially turn on another. You can’t predict what he likes and pleases him unless you know the man for more than just a day or two or even weeks or months. Only way to know this is to know the mans heart and go on from there. Sex is as simple as it is complicated. And sometimes the more complicated parts are the simple things about it. Still, as for me, I don’t see it as sex. I see it as making love. So, that being said, get to know your mans fantasies. What turns him on and what doesn’t And if by not having sex, you mean intercourse or copulation (cruder terms have been said, so don’t laugh! lol), then the means for which you are looking for is physical stimulation by which I mean to say, oral sex or mutual masturbation or anything from teasing to making out. The means are various when it comes to that. The only hindrance here is how far your imagination can go.
The only thing I know is this: I am full of wounds and still standing on my feet.
Sometimes I think to myself, that when it comes to love there are untold things that happen when you love someone and they love you. That even when I know that I can seek to find something more normal, I go for the difficult cos I think it’s a love that will last forever. A love that transcends the physical or the mental. It’s funny when you think something is right and the next moment you’re proved wrong. Life is about living for something meaningful. There are people out there that think you have only one life in which to do everything and you just do things you want to. I won’t say their choice is wrong but I personally think that life should be more about living for something that’s worth it. Taking risks, having belief, hope, persevering till the end and never letting go. Sometimes you just have to give something a chance before you even give up on it. Sometimes you think you know what you need but the thing you want isn’t the thing you really need but the one thing you give up on. And someday later you’ll wish that if you had just given it a chance, you wouldn’t have made a choice that took you to the place you’re now.
I’m not sure if I will ever write again. Not sure if I will. But sure that you can know that I’m always here. I will come at times and share my love for what I did with my heart on here and the people and the loving strangers who supported me. But for now, I’ll be gone for a bit. And one last thing. Take this for a man who knows what he’s talking about. Never ever give up on the one who truly really loves you. There might be a million trillion gazillion freakin’ reasons you shouldn’t be together. But love is what matters in the end. You can even have everything in life, every comfort, everything under the sun. But if there’s no love, its all for nothing. If you have love, everything will come to you in time. Happiness, joy, safety and a life where you’re content and satisfied. Just trust me on this. You’ll know someday and you’ll say that, that guy was right whoever he is.